Monday, June 10, 2013

If there's anything we can do to help...

Let us know.  

But that really translates into "Don't bother to ask, because we weren't really serious about being able to help."

Anyone else find this to be true more often than not?  Do people say it with the intent of helping you with what you need, or are they just saying it as a way to show support without really having to do anything?  Sort of along the lines of "We'll be praying for you?"  

I may be a bit bitter about this statement right now.  See, we just packed up our house in TX and moved to OK (took Sarge and I three days to do it).  And of course lots of people said "Let us know if there's anything we can do to help!"  But when it came down to it, only two people showed up to help.  They helped by entertaining the kids for us and with some of the packing.  One of them even sent her high school aged son over to help Sarge load the heavy stuff.  And if it hadn't been for the kindness of two random strangers, I'm not sure the heavy stuff would have been loaded that second day.  

So where was everyone else who said they'd help?

I get that people are busy.  And yes, we moved in the middle of the week instead of on a weekend, but a couple hours in the evening?  Or bringing a meal over so I didn't have to try and cook while getting everything packed?

I am thankful for true friends who will offer to do what they can, when they can.

This whole experience has made me much more aware of my responses to people asking for help.  If I can truly help them, then I will do it.  If I can't, then I won't even offer a *fake* sentiment.  And when someone asks me to pray for them, I'll stop right there and pray (and if you post a prayer request on facebook, know that as soon as I read it I'll pray).  


  1. I'm sorry people weren't more helpful. It's hard to be understanding that people have busy lives but know that you would help them if the roles were reversed. I wish I could've been there for you.

    1. Thanks. I know there are lots of people who would have helped if they lived closer. And I'm especially sensitive of this comment because of all of Sarge's deployments and how *quickly* people forget that he's gone...